Waiting

Do you ever feel like Inigo Montoya in Princess Bride. You remember the scene where a masked Wesley is attempting to climb the ‘Cliffs of Insanity’ and Inigo Montoya stands at the top of the cliff attempting to make him hurry by all sorts of promises.As Wesley hangs on for dear life, he says to Inigo, “That’s very comforting, but I’m afraid you’ll just have to wait”, to which Inigo replies “I hate waiting”.

Sometimes I feel like I’m climbing my very own cliff of insanity in midwifery. Telling an overdue pregnant mom that the best solution you have for her is to wait, feels pretty insane. As the aches and pains of being heavy with child combine with the anticipation of the much awaited day coming very soon, I feel as if there are many promises of how much better it is to let spontaneous labor occur on its own. There is information on the benefits of not hurrying the end of pregnancy, of remembering the crucial development of the baby’s lungs that occurs at the end of pregnancy, and of the risks of intervention to hurry labor along. Pregnancy is something that simply can’t be hurried. Still, at the end of the day, I just feel like the mom says, “That’s very comforting, but I’m afraid you are saying I’ll just have to wait” and everybody, from midwife to mom wants to say “I hate waiting”.

I would love to be able to end the difficulties of the last few days of pregnancy, and the challenges associated with an unknown time and date and just get labor to happen. But if I could, just think how royally I would mess it up. How easy it is for me to be so caught up anticipating the future, that I miss the joy that I currently experience. For, if I live in constant anticipation of the birth, I risk missing some precious moments that happen. I do enjoy listening to the heartbeat of a new life still within the womb, watching the baby’s tiny limbs move within the mother, and seeing the light of love grow in the eyes of parents anticipating this new life. I do like knowing that labor will not happen on my timetable, but in His time. And eventually, it will end and I will know this baby’s birthday. But even all this I seem to think is, “very comforting, but you’ll just have to wait” and we all know in my flesh, “I hate waiting”.

So for all my musings, I can only say, yes, the best solution I have for an overdue mom is to wait, but I know the One who will determine when the waiting will end. We can trust Him and the best solution I have is to wait, but I will wait with you.